Women, Keep This In Mind ! By Brenda Tenerelli

[Steve Hutchinson]

WOMEN, KEEP THIS IN MIND! by Brenda Tenerelli

It's very true that we are the protectors of men's hearts. There is something I want to share with you all. I'm sorry if this sounds more like a counseling session, but I think it needs to be said. It's so true that we carry a lot; perhaps even more than most of us realize. I've learned in my life that men are much more emotionally fragile, and can suffer much worse damage to their hearts. We are actually stronger than them in this way. I've found that too many women forget their beauty and role and become very hurtful and cold. They play games not realizing that the damage they do may be irreversible by the man without years of pain. If there is one thing in this world I can't handle it is to see a man cry, simply because I can feel how much pain is in his heart. I've seen them very tortured, yet by society's standard, trying very hard to hide behind a masculine or macho front to not look weak. No man should ever be thought of as weak because he is able to express emotion or is more in tune with them, quite the opposite. There's good reason why we are here to protect their hearts. We can cry and let it all show and heal from it, whereas they often can't due to society. They hold it in, causing much deeper damage. Just to throw into the pot here, please don't withhold you-know-what! Ever! I'm going to tell you something you may or may not agree with. Men have a hard time with emotions, and often use intimacy as a way of showing their love and affection. It validates them in completely different ways from us. When we withhold it, or turn it down, you are turning down his love, too. If need be, tell him you aren't turning down his love or a cozy snuggle, just the intimate relations itself. Men in relationships are many times more likely to commit suicide than women; sad, isn't it? As well as being an advocate for abused women, I have a mission to teach as many women as I can what really goes on in a man's mind and heart; all this hurt needs to stop! Each and every day I remind myself: UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: WE ARE ONE!! Are you following me here, ladies? Good! And so we carry the Flame and protect the Heart at all cost!!

Love, Light, and Blessings, Brenda

[New Dawn Light]

I agree Brenda.  Twin flames that are not able to be together until their ascension have a unique way to express their love. And as you know, it is called sacred sexual union where they express verbally their eloquent love. People who are strong soul mates are able to express their love by tuning into their strong connection of having been together in several life times. People that live far apart often keep up a clear, unconditional loving relationship  by sending love letters.  Let us women focus on being sensitive to men's emotions and act accordingly. I find that the men who are emotionally immature, need to be reassured of their love often and tend to doubt our love often. Their neediness gets in the way to feel loved because of their insecurities and intimacy can be hindered.  I would like to hear your thoughts on this matter.  Hugs girlfriend! 

[Luke]

Love and blessings beautiful friend , your wisdom is appreciated.  Luke.

[gulden brown]

thank you for the re-minder :) blessings-love  gulden

[Steve Hutchinson]

New Dawn Light, Here is Brenda's reply to your comment:

Comment by Brenda Tenerelli 10 hours 

Yes, I do agree that the insecurities do get in the way, intimacy is very hard for them to open up to, and the neediness is there, but just looks different from us. Women can be needy/clingy, but show it more in freaking out every time they text & he doesn't text back, wanting to know why he didn't call 1 time, and many other ways. Men's neediness comes out as withdrawal and doubting and more covert ways of expression. Just sayin here, but especially for men who were abused as children, especially sexually abused, there is an extremely deep level of pain, shame, guilt, and more that lies covered up in layers of societal influence and effects every aspect of their life and personality. It especially influences their ability to be in intimate relationships. It is crucial that we help and support them in a purely loving and accepting way so that these can be healed and released. When a man doesn't heal this and feels he isn't worthy of her love, he will deny not only the relationship, but that there are any feelings at all or any kind of connection. In case anyone is wondering about the suicide part, this has been statistically proven in study after study, year after year, for decades that men commit suicide more often than women by a 2-1 ratio and it is often over intimate or romantic issues or the loss of one. As for the sacred sexual union aspect, until the sexual and emotional issues have been dealt with and healed, this will be hindered because it blocks the flow of energy from the kundalini and chakras up through. It creates serious blocks to the root and sacral chakras especially, and kundalini may be totally blocked, so any sexual union that does occur will not carry the energetic flow or spiritual upliftment it could.

[Steve Hutchinson]

New Dawn Light, Here is Brenda's reply to your comment:

Yes, I do agree that the insecurities do get in the way, intimacy is very hard for them to open up to, and the neediness is there, but just looks different from us. Women can be needy/clingy, but show it more in freaking out every time they text & he doesn't text back, wanting to know why he didn't call 1 time, and many other ways. Men's neediness comes out as withdrawal and doubting and more covert ways of expression. Just sayin here, but especially for men who were abused as children, especially sexually abused, there is an extremely deep level of pain, shame, guilt, and more that lies covered up in layers of societal influence and effects every aspect of their life and personality. It especially influences their ability to be in intimate relationships. It is crucial that we help and support them in a purely loving and accepting way so that these can be healed and released. When a man doesn't heal this and feels he isn't worthy of her love, he will deny not only the relationship, but that there are any feelings at all or any kind of connection. In case anyone is wondering about the suicide part, this has been statistically proven in study after study, year after year, for decades that men commit suicide more often than women by a 2-1 ratio and it is often over intimate or romantic issues or the loss of one. As for the sacred sexual union aspect, until the sexual and emotional issues have been dealt with and healed, this will be hindered because it blocks the flow of energy from the kundalini and chakras up through. It creates serious blocks to the root and sacral chakras especially, and kundalini may be totally blocked, so any sexual union that does occur will not carry the energetic flow or spiritual upliftment it could.
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[Rachel caroline]

Lovely article,and very touching ,moving,and true in a great deal of cases...thankyou x