Why wait for someone to be ready or not
During my lifetime there have been many challenges where It was important to wait for the other one to get on board. We all walk in our own pace, and not necessary the same. Being in a loving relationship, it is always about taken care of each other as well staying true to yourself. No need to wait in your own lifetime experiences to go through the different stages and phases.
If this is needed for your own higher good as well progressing. It will also need to be aligned with the one you love. If this means there is a different phase that needs to be worked out, there is always the need to give space to that. To have time to enfold as well to work through the necessary issues that are at hand.
It has been very important during my life up to now, that at times I need to wait for my loved ones to work through their own process. I can only offer them my love, my attention and care in order to facilitate a safe space so to speak. I came to the understanding that their lessons are not always my lessons.
Their own inner soul mission has a different task to explore as well to heal and recover from old emotional wounds. Each one brings in their own lifetime issue to work through and bring in the inner balance again, from the heart. It was not just me being a partner, a mother, a child of my parents, siblings, relatives and friends. It was coming from a deeper knowing.
Now this took me several years to understand and my study as well my experiences for myself were guidelines as well tools. You cannot help or assist any one, if they don’t want it. You cannot force information or assistance on anyone, rebelling against it. You can only offer the love you hold for them, setting boundaries when needed and necessary as well.
It is never intended the ways the processes were taking place would be harming you in any way shape or form. Yet to know this, it is most important to understand how this works on both parties involved. For each relationship holds a different energy pattern in itself. Your position as a lover and partner in a relationship is different from the role as a parent, or towards your own parents.
All we learn through our upbringing is decided and colored a lot by our own social and religious surroundings, our culture, our nation, our community. Our parents have been raised with their own set of lessons, which will be taught again to their children. Depending on the way love has been a key to unlock the inner closets, or through fear to keep them closed.
Every experience we have or had is colored by either one. Fear based experienced don’t hold the light, it is black and its dark. Love will be the key to bring in the light, to shed the light towards the one you love. Learning trough the challenges we are learning how love will be the healer towards any experience, emotional wounds as well physical.
If we are in an equal relationship with our loved ones, children, family and friends, there will always be space to allow any of them to work through their inner process of healing. Whatever it takes or is needed to bring in a safe space, we are willing to bring this in. Does this mean we are not triggered by behavior, of course we are. It is up to us to decide how we will respond and react to them.
Love is always the base of the way we are able to deal with the emotional triggers. At times we have to set our own boundaries, specifically if it is about anger or respect. Self-love and self-worth are the foundation. This will set the space as well the way we will be able to deal with the triggers. Because it’s not always about you.
As much as we think it is, most of the challenges we all go through have to do with our own inner healing of emotional old wounds we bring to the table. The way our circumstances will provide the circumstances, the people around us, our loved ones as well are prove of that. So if you learn more and more about your inner turmoil, you will be able to share this with your loved ones as well. You can be of assistance as well holding the loving space for them to work through.
What do you do, when you know what will assist them to come to healing with the proper knowledge. It depends on the willingness of them to hear or able to hear what you have to offer. If it’s met with resistance or they are just not able to hear because of their inner turmoil, it doesn’t work.
Then you have to wait till they are. Is it about you? Only if you are taking it upon yourself, when it’s feeding your own insecurity, of not being heard, of not being seen, of not being understood. Then yes, it is about you to take a look at the cause of it and find your way to bring in the necessary love and compassion to heal them.
Is it about the fear, anger or any other negative experienced energy, and it doesn’t resonate with you, then it’s not about you. You don’t have to accept any judgement or belief system ideas, that don’t resonate and is projection by the other of their own inner beliefs and imprints. Should you love them less, no of course not.
You can love any soul and heart, yet you don’t have to be always in terms with them if this doesn’t resonate at that specific moment. Then you can decide to wait, with love and compassion, kindness and understanding, till they will be ready to hear your love. Because they are worth it to wait for, coming through their own turmoil in the sacred safe space you then offer.
Every soul is worth it to wait for, ready or not, in order to change the old ways we were taught. We have this wonderful opportunity to create this change, from the heart. Bring in the love and the space to not just wait for them to love themselves, as much for you, to love yourself without any restrictions, no reservations or holding back. Unconditional love is a learning process, yet it always starts within. It always starts with you, holding yourself in a loving unconditional way. Heart to Heart, Soul to Soul.
And so it will be done
High Self @RheaDopmeijer ©
Heartfelt Messages 31-5-2018