what is about grieve, or grievance

[Rhea Dopmeijer]

What is it about grieve or grievance you say?

When you want to explore a topic such as grieve you can only do this from your own perspective. Realizing how broad this topic is and to be found in so many areas of our life it is not an easy task at hand to keep this simple from the perspective of the Heart and Love. Our personality we have been choosing has enough layers in itself to have experienced loss in so many ways.

And within all these layers we find so many different perspectives as well, for each experience had a different outcome. So I can honestly say I can only talk about loss and grievance from my own point of view and experience.

In my early years as a child I already had surgery because my tonsils had to be removed after 3 years of recurrent infections. I still can smell the anesthesia they used at the time sitting on the lap of the nurse and waking up in a big room with 20 other kids who all had the same procedure, yet none of them had the same kind of experience.

For me it was loss of time somehow as well waking up with a very sore throat, so this changed my perspective for once and for all on being healthy and how this has affected my up growing. Yet as a young child you don’t realize it with the full awareness and the experience is being hold in a space for further acknowledgement.

The good thing was the attention and loving care I received from my parents and family, who came with little presents and lots of ice-cream to help clear the throat area. So it was with mixed emotions the event was experienced. Apparently loss of something dear or valuable is also close to the heart.

Loss of ability which creates disability is also connected with the process of grieve, for we mourn the loss of the change of our being, from healthy to disabled somehow, and every new moment in time that touched this experience set in a motion of different emotions, the process of layers being shed, from anger, to sorrow, from allowing to acceptance, from acceptance to moving forward again.

And by acknowledgement able to see experiences also as life challenges which gives you the opportunity to make choices for yourself. Can you do this lovingly and with release gives a totally different outcome. That will enrich your life even though you might not be able to do the things you love to do, or took for granted at times as well. And this is about health issues, the living energy or the life energy that is available to us, one way or the other, more or less.

So what to say when we have to say goodbye to someone we love, when relationships brake up, when you are betrayed in your trust, when you feel no longer loved, or the worst scenario, when you have to let go of someone dear and close to you.

Every society and culture has its own way of dealing with grief and also how to express it. Belief systems or religions are a big part of the way we are taught how to deal with grievance. What is acceptable and what not is very different all over the world in that aspect. There are cultures who celebrate life someone had; others only can express it by silence. So there for grief will have a different meaning when you put in a global perspective.

It shows the complexity of the process trying to explain the movements this has which will differ for everyone. I can only talk about my own experience with grief. I can only talk about the importance the Heart or Love, has been part in my journey to explain how I can deal with loss. I can only talk about my own experience when it comes to loss, Weather this is loss of trust, loss of health or loss of a loved one.

So can I give some clarity about this topic? Yes I can tell you how I go through the process of the different phases that come with grievance. Yet this is from one single point of view. Mine. Loss of civilization, loss of dignity, loss of safety, and loss of sanity all topics connected with grief. We have seen it all around the world when the safety of children are in danger, either in their own homes or threatened by dictatorship and religion.

When violence ends the sanity of men and people are being killed over ideals or belief systems, created by the power games. Then mourning is being not something for the individual or family, mourning becomes a movement that binds a lot of people together, in cities, in countries, between different countries, all across the world and we see the inner connections we all share with each other, we see the brotherhood again in humanity, the foundation for freedom, brotherhood and care for one another in loving ways, to stand united, as one again.

So basically, if I need to give it word grief a meaning, it would be the sorrow and pain we sense when we become separated from Oneness, from connection, from being part of the whole, as a human being, in a world divided instead of united, in a world broken instead of mend, in a world of duality instead of Oneness and that yearning we grave for gets many faces in all our lifespan experiences to bring back the Love for all of Creation.

And so it is.

High Self @RheaDopmeijer ©
Heartfelt Messages 14-1-2015